For those of you who don’t know what a catfish is. A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone else online by using false information, usually to pursue a romantic relationship.
On MTV’s Catfish the TV Show, the hosts, Nev and Max help people who have met someone online discover the truth about them and bring them together. For the most part the people they are helping are being catfished and the person they thought they were in a relationship with are not who they said they were.
For the most part, the person doing the catfishing was not trying to be malicious, they were simply looking for love and they felt that they could only do that if they were someone else. This sad truth jumps out at me with every episode that I watch. Pretty much every catfish on the show has no self-esteem, no self-love and no self worth. They don’t like themselves, and they don’t believe that they, as themselves, are worthy of love and so they pretend to be someone else and go looking for love,
I find it really sad that so many people think so little of themselves. But it’s even sadder that instead of working on themselves and learning to love themselves, they choose to escape their reality online and in the process hurt other people. It’s become so common that the term catfish has been added to the dictionary! It’s crazy!
Sadly, most of the catfish on the show are overweight women and this really hits home for me because having been an overweight woman my entire life and having suffered from low self-esteem for the better part of 28 years I completely understood the pain and emptiness these women feel. I’ve even been in an abusive relationship because I didn’t love myself enough to get out.
I wish that these women would learn what I finally learned, that no amount of love from another person will fill that hole in your heart. You need to love yourself before you can ever hope to have the love of someone else. Love from another cannot make you whole and if you don’t learn to love yourself, you will never be happy and you will never experience real love.
Loving yourself is the most important thing that you will EVER do! It is the best gift that you will ever receive. Loving yourself will change your life. You will be happier, stronger and more confident and you will attract people to you with your energy and your whole life will start to change. Loving yourself is the first step towards leading an amazing life. You won’t need to go online to escape your real world because your new world will be better and more amazing than any online world could ever be.
If people started learning to love themselves they would find that what they were looking for online all this time was inside them the whole time.